Young Love and March Madness

As the snow melts from North East Snow Apocalypse 2016 we embrace the advent of spring, new life, and new prospects are on the horizon. Some think of spring cleaning, while others think of taking a vacation. With the dawning of spring, the tenor of relationships often changes too.

A few years ago our family had taken an apartment in Washington, DC. The apartment provided easy access to Capitol Hill where my husband was working. I teased him all winter about the couples “booed up” in the elevators each night. I reminded him that the commitment to live with fidelity and integrity was waning across the country. Come spring we would see how these relationships panned out.

Surprisingly we have many opportunities during that period to discuss our relationship status. Over a few days we often talked about the state of our union. We were determined to be sure our relationship did not take on a life of its own. Our commitment to each other had been to build strong to last long. Strong unique personalities always present unique differences to work through.

Here are the rules we try to use:

  1. Integrity and fidelity is the sieve that sorts our differences.
  2. Be objective. Listen to the head and heart of the speaker.
  3. Be courteous. Take frequent breaks if needed to prevent free for all arguments and name calling.
  4. Stay current. Unless a previous incident is a relevant example, let the past stay in the past.
  5. Be willing to discuss personal goals in light of the corporate goals.
  6. Closure on a subject does not mean agreement. Acknowledge the differences. Develop rules of engagement to keep the difference from becoming a hindrance.
  7. Do not create deal breakers. Ultimatums are divisive.
  8. Handle personal peeves and preferences with Biblical finesse. (Gal 5:22-23; 1 Cor 13: 4-8a; Pro 15:1; 26:20; Ps 119:165)

By the way, the building management issued new key fobs. Young love always spring eternal. We saw some of the same individuals in new couplings as we rode the elevator. Sometimes a side-eyed wink of acknowledgment was given they clung to each other or a knowing smile. All the while thinking, the real March Madness had begun!

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Dr. Vivian M. Jackson
Dr. Vivian M. Jackson is the President of The Marriage Doctor, a marriage counseling ministry where she assists couples in developing strategies they are willing to implement to build strong relationships. Married for 38 years and the mother of two adult children, Vivian has practiced the craft of being married on the anvil of experience with Biblical principles as her guide. Affectionately known as Dr. Vivian, she speaks in conferences and hosts workshops around the nation. She is the First Lady of Hope Christian Church and the International Communion of Evangelical Churches.
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